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#166 Reinier & Kate on Love and FASD - Relationships and Resilience

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Relationships and Resilience: Reinier & Kate on Love and FASD What does love look like when FASD is part of the story? And how do you play the long game when milestones come later than expected? In this episode of The FASD Success Show, I sit down with my friends Reinier deSmit and Kate Kristiansen for a real and vulnerable conversation about partnership, conflict, and resilience. Reinier was diagnosed with FASD at 56. Now in his 60s, he describes that diagnosis as a gift finally gi...

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