Child custody through divorce: Navigating the courts and building a custody schedule that works with Michael Fried Video
Securely AttachedShow Notes
Michael Fried, a family law attorney at Berkman Bottger Newman & Schein joins me to help parents navigating divorce better understand what to expect when it comes to child custody, how courts make custody decisions, and how to create a parenting agreement that truly serves their child's best interests.
Together we explore:
Why today's courts increasingly begin with the assumption that children benefit from strong relationships with both parents, and what that means for custody decisions.
The common mistake parents make when approaching custody and why "winning" isn't actually the goal.
What judges are really looking for when determining a child's best interests.
How to think about 50/50 custody, and why there isn't one schedule that's right for every family.
The developmental factors that should shape a parenting plan, from toddlers to teenagers.
Practical strategies that help children adjust to living in two homes with greater security and less stress.
The communication tools that can reduce conflict and make co-parenting more successful, even when the relationship between parents is strained.
What parents should document during a custody case and when it makes sense to revisit a parenting agreement as children grow.
Whether you're considering divorce, actively navigating a custody arrangement, or simply want to better understand how to protect your child's emotional well-being through a separation, this conversation offers practical guidance grounded in both legal expertise and child development.
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: 🔗 Michael L. Fried 🔗 Berkman Bottger Newman & Schein LLP 💻 5 Minutes with Fried 📱 LinkedIn: Michael L. Fried IG: @bbnsfamilylaw FB: Berkman Bottger Newman Schein LLP
LEARN MORE ABOUT ME: 🔗 Dr. Sarah Bren 🔗 Check out my group practice, Upshur Bren Psychology Group, offering therapy and coaching for individuals, children, parents, and families 📱IG: @drsarahbren
ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 📱 Our Family Wizard - A safe platform that takes care of all communication during divorce and co-parenting
👉 Navigating separation or divorce? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers specialized support at every stage of the process, including therapy and coaching, parenting and co-parenting support, family therapy, and weekly divorce groups for women and children. Whether you're in the middle of a split or adjusting to a new family structure, our team is here to help you and your children feel steady and supported. Visit upshurbren.com to learn more or schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the right support for your family.
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about busting divorce myths and breaking down the true effect it has on children Michelle Dempsey-Multack
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with preventative steps to reduce the risk of children forming insecure attachments during divorce with Una Archer
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether "nesting" during a divorce is better for your kids
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