Show Notes
In this special episode, Ash is joined by her longtime friend Ash Murray. For years, both women battled addiction silently, only sharing the full depths of their stories with one another after coming into recovery. Today, Ash Murray is the Eating Disorder Lead and Therapist at The Wave Clinic in Malaysia, with her expertise grounded not just in study, but in lived experience.
Ash opens up about her personal journey through eating disorders and alcohol addiction, sharing what recovery has truly looked like beyond the surface. From the isolating depths of illness which nearly took her life, to the slow rebuilding of trust, self-worth, and connection, she reflects on the pivotal role that rehab, honesty, healing and self-care have played in finding lasting freedom.
Together, they explore the intersection of therapy and lived experience, how vulnerability and empathy can become powerful tools for healing both self and others. They unpack the mental health challenges that intensified during the COVID-19 pandemic, and the importance of ongoing support in maintaining balance and wellbeing.
Episode chapter: 00:00 Introduction to Ashley Murray's Journey 02:57 Life in Malaysia and Work at the Wave Clinic 05:46 Navigating COVID-19 in Treatment 08:21 The Impact of COVID-19 on Mental Health 11:08 A Photo that Represents Struggles 13:55 The Super Yacht Experience and Its Consequences 16:27 The Turning Point: Seeking Help 19:22 Life in Bali and the Struggle with Addiction 22:16 The Rock Bottom Moment 24:49 Desperation and the Path to Recovery 27:08 The Turning Point: Reaching Out for Help 31:53 Childhood Struggles: The Roots of Eating Disorders 44:03 Escaping Reality: The Need to Hide 48:25 Facing the Truth: A Journey of Self-Discovery 54:28 The Struggle of Surrendering Control 57:02 The Complexity of Eating Disorders 59:13 The Power of Intervention 01:00:41 Transformation Through Therapy 01:04:11 Building Trust in Recovery 01:06:15 The Importance of Honesty 01:08:57 Setting Boundaries for Recovery 01:13:03 Non-Negotiables for a Fulfilling Life
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