Show Notes
Nicole hit rock bottom in her 20s. Loss, divorce, depression, partying to escape her reality. Lisette never hit rock bottom. She just disappeared, 15 years as a stay-at-home mom, until the day her daughter left for college and she realized she'd never done a single thing just for herself. Two different paths. Same glow up. In this episode of Your Wellness Besties, Lisette and Nicole open up about what it really takes to reinvent yourself in your 40s and 50s. Lisette shares a difficult weekend helping a family member through a mental health crisis, which leads into a powerful conversation about how our choices affect us long term and the importance of making changes before it's too late. She reflects on the moment at 49 when she looked in the mirror, 20 pounds overweight, realizing she'd spent 15 years putting everyone else first, all while unknowingly going through perimenopause. Nicole gets real about her messy 20s, marked by loss, divorce, and depression, and how she started her physical transformation at 30 through bodybuilding. But she reveals that looking good on the outside didn't mean she was mentally healthy. It wasn't until she met her fiancé Billy at 40 that she started doing the real work on her mindset. You'll hear about the fear of failure and the public embarrassment both hosts faced when things didn't work out. Lisette talks about starting an online fashion boutique at 48, running it for two years, then having to shut it down and pivot. Nicole discusses the criticism she faced when she started showing up online, competing, and building her brand, including people unfollowing her the moment she started becoming successful and happy. They dig into imposter syndrome, building confidence through action, and why surrounding yourself with the right people is non-negotiable. Nicole explains how confidence comes from doing the reps and showing up scared. Lisette shares why the way you present yourself is a form of self-respect. They talk about why you're never too old to start over, how to make a list and prioritize what actually matters, and why starting small with one habit at a time is the key to not getting overwhelmed. If you're ready to start over, reinvent yourself, or finally prioritize your own happiness and health in midlife, this episode will give you the encouragement and roadmap you need. Zero filter. Find us on Instagram @yourwellnessbesties. New episodes every week. DM us your questions, we read every single one. Subscribe so you never miss an episode and share this with a woman in your life who needs this conversation. #YourWellnessBesties #WellnessPodcast #MidlifeWellness #WomenOver40 #HealthAfter40 #PodcastForWomen #MidlifeHealth #WomenOver50 #WellnessAfter40 #MidlifeTransformation #NoFilter #RealTalk #WomensHealth #HealthyLiving #WellnessJourney
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