208 | what does an autism evaluation look like as an adult? (and is it worth it?)
EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kidsShow Notes
about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇 you started this journey trying to understand your child… and somewhere along the way, you started to notice traits yourself in it too. for many parents, this moment is both clarifying and confusing. you recognize the patterns. but then the question becomes: what do I actually do? in this episode, dr. tay walks through what it looks like to explore your own neurodivergence as an adult, including when self-identification feels enough and when you might want more clarity. she also breaks down what an autism evaluation can actually look like for adults (and why it often doesn’t need to be the same long, overwhelming process many families go through with their children). in this episode, you’ll hear: why so many parents begin to question their own neurotype after their child’s diagnosis what self-identification can offer and when it may or may not feel sufficient how masking, learned behaviors, and life experiences can make it harder to recognize autism in yourself why adult autism is often missed or misidentified earlier in life what a comprehensive autism evaluation is designed to assess and why that model doesn’t always fit adult needs how adult evaluations can be more streamlined, collaborative, and focused on lived experience what clarity, validation, and outside perspective can offer beyond self-exploration how an evaluation can support not just you but your parenting and your relationship with your child the difference between needing “all the data” vs. needing confirmation and next steps how to think about whether an evaluation is the right next step for you
timestamps 00:00 Understanding Neurodivergence in Families 10:04 The Importance of Self-Identification 19:10 Navigating Evaluations and Diagnoses 28:31 Finding Clarity and Supporting resources ⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services, including booking a free consult call for our adult evaluations ⚡️ explore DSM-5-TR diagnostic criteria for autism (made accessible by @blackspectrumscholar as part of their free resource library) ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to have you questions answered like mentioned in today's episode ⚡️ follow me on instagram → @the.dr.tay tiktok → @the.dr.tay
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