Conscious Coupling: Relationship Maintenance Tune-Up with Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C
Harvesting Happiness PodcastsShow Notes
Long-term relationships require consistent relationship maintenance and a shared commitment to making it work. By embracing conscious coupling, we take the lead on our own emotional growth, learning how to handle the messy stuff instead of sweeping it under the rug. Improving our partner communication means listening to our partners even when we want to speak.
To discover tried-and-true relationship maintenance techniques, Harvesting Happiness Podcast host Lisa Cypers Kamen welcomes author and couples counselor Raffi Bilek back to the show.
Raffi doubles down on his straightforward and simple strategies designed to deepen partner connection and foster conscious coupling. He shares relatable examples taken from his book, The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted.
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