Show Notes
Episode Summary:
In this episode, Ally and Jill speak with attorney Jolee Vacchi of Foundations Family Law, and share insights on navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce. We discuss effective co-parenting strategies, legal considerations, coercive control and narcissistic abuse and navigating it in the court. Jolee offers valuable advice for parents navigating court for the first time or modification.
Main Points
Extended Espresso Shot: Contemplating Divorce
Coercive control and narcissistic abuse
Navigating the courts
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Coffee Date Guest: Jolee Vacchi
Attorney Jolee E. Vacchi is a respected, experienced, and compassionate family law practitioner licensed in both Massachusetts and Rhode Island. Most recently, prior to establishing Foundations Family Law, she worked for several years at a mid-sized family law firm in the Worcester, MA area, rising to the title of Supervising Attorney.
While being an empowering and calming presence for her clients, Jolee also has the uncanny ability to transform into a zealous and compelling legal advocate when the occasion calls for it. Once dubbed “The Weapon” by an opposing party in a divorce case, one of her favorite sayings is: “Underestimate Me– That Will Be Fun.”
Jolee emphatically believes that the best outcomes for families in legal conflict most often result from negotiated settlements. She is a collaboratively-trained attorney and Certified Divorce and Family Law Mediator, and leverages her expertise and experience in alternative dispute resolution to obtain optimal results for her clients.
In addition to her interests in alternative dispute resolution and settlement negotiations, Jolee also enjoys working on high-conflict cases involving the potential removal/relocation of children out-of-state, coercive control and narcissistic abuse, and contested guardianships of a minor.
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