382: Reparenting Your Inner Child, Self-Abandonment + Nervous System Healing | Dr. Nicole LePera | Nicole LePera
Be Well by Kelly LevequeShow Notes
Why do you overreact, shut down, or put everyone else first, even when you know it’s hurting you?
In this episode, Nicole LePera, breaks down how your “inner child” shapes your behaviors, from people-pleasing to perfectionism to emotional flooding, and how self-abandonment quietly shows up in your daily life.
We also cover why these patterns aren’t flaws, they’re adaptations, and how to actually change them through nervous system regulation, awareness, and small, intentional shifts.
If you’ve ever felt stuck repeating the same cycles in relationships, this will change how you understand yourself and what healing really looks like.
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Topics Discussed:
→ Why do I self-abandon in relationships?
→ What is inner child healing and how does it work?
→ Why do I overreact or shut down emotionally?
→ How can I regulate my nervous system in real time?
→ How do I stop people-pleasing and set boundaries?
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Timestamps:
→ 00:00:00 - Introduction
→ 00:03:07 - Nicole’s Healing Journey
→ 00:07:09 - Cry It Out Method
→ 00:14:28 - Inner Child Work
→ 00:18:55 - Inner Children In Relationships
→ 00:21:02 - Reparting Steps
→ 00:27:37 - Kelly’s Experience With Therapy
→ 00:30:35 - Emotional Flooding
→ 00:35:41 - Handling Stress
→ 00:37:27 - Self Abandonment
→ 00:41:41 - Selfless Motherhood
→ 00:43:44 - Overcorrection + Helicopter Parenting
→ 00:47:52 - Snow Plow Parenting
→ 00:51:43 - Negativity Bias + Boundaries
→ 00:59:13 - Kelly’s Experience
→ 01:01:12 - You Are Not Broken
→ 01:05:31 - Regulation Tools
Further Listening:
→ Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn’t Exist | Joe Hudson
Check Out Nicole:
→ Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/
→ Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist
→ New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child
Check Out Kelly:
→ Youtube
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