Episode 16 | Guest conversation: “What’s the point of living if I can’t drink?” with Kelly Harman
The Wine O'Clock WomanShow Notes
Kelly Harman believed life without alcohol would be flat, dull, and joyless. The opposite happened. In this conversation, we talk about the moment she realised drinking was keeping her in survival mode, how nervous system regulation changed everything, and why waking up hangover-free has given her a life she now experiences in full colour.
Kelly is the founder of Fire & Soul and works with women in midlife and high-pressure roles to support nervous system regulation, resilience, and recovery from stress and burnout. A trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and positive psychology coach, Kelly brings lived experience to her work after stepping away from drinking and rebuilding her life with clearer boundaries, steadier energy, and a more intentional way of living.
Follow Kelly’s work and explore her breathwork, retreats, and wellbeing programmes here:
www.fireandsoul.co.uk
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Find Kelly on LinkedIn here
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