#282 Orgasmic Intimacy: Heart-Connected Sex, Pleasure, and Practical Skills (with Susan Bratton)
Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam FraserShow Notes
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Susan Bratton, author and publisher of 44 books and programs on heart-connected, pleasure-focused “orgasmic intimacy,” reframing sex beyond intercourse to full-body sensual touch, communication, oral pleasuring, yoni massage, and orgasmic intercourse that considers what the vagina wants. She argues sex can improve with age, supports healthspan and happiness, and is an overlooked “fourth factor of longevity” alongside sleep, nutrition, and movement. They discuss barriers like religious repression, patriarchy, porn-driven performance scripts, and poor sexual literacy, and agree pleasure can fuel broader systemic change. Practical steps include dropping agendas and performance goals, slowing down with holding, adoration and verbal encouragement for safety, massage to reduce tension, “bullseye” touch to build arousal over time, normalizing erection fluctuations, and exploring 69 and varied thrusting techniques. Key Points:04:45 Sex as Longevity Pillar12:11 Systems vs Personal Pleasure25:09 Soothing Touch and Care28:34 Beyond Piston Sex30:57 Massage Skill Calibration32:03 Lady Boner Bloodflow45:18 Ecstatic Sex Roadmap
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