#287 Removing Performance Pressure From Sex (with Stephanie Ganowski)
Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam FraserShow Notes
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Stephanie Ganowski. They discuss how porn and online masculinity messaging create unrealistic expectations, and explain the mechanism of performance anxiety as a fight-or-flight nervous system response that disrupts arousal and erections and can speed ejaculation. Stephanie emphasizes pairing physical techniques (breathing, pelvic floor work) with mindset changes, including answering “what if” thoughts in advance to reduce uncertainty and build trust. Both advocate reframing sex from penis-centered performance to pleasure, presence, and connection, encouraging non-linear intimacy and better communication with partners, including using third-party prompts like podcasts. Stephanie shares her iOS app Ronin, a guided masturbation/meditation tool to build confidence, reduce porn reliance, and train arousal skills. Key Points:07:01 Nervous System Breakdown13:15 Redefining Great Sex24:22 PE vs ED Practices29:25 Couples Talk About Sex34:31 Handling Hard Feedback41:39 Toys Lube And Solo Practice
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