Show Notes
How I became a Dominatrix, what the job really involves, and the layered challenges we face: stigma, emotional labor, financial exclusion, and more. It’s the behind-the-scenes look at sex work you won’t find on Netflix.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - The Scope of My Job (01:45) - The Interest in Sex Work (02:40) - The Intricacies and Evolution of My Work Responsibilities (04:50) - What a Receptionist Shielded Me From (09:30) - Why I Do Sex Work Despite the Challenges (11:05) - Dungeon vs Indie (11:50) - Navigating Societal Stigma (12:30) - Marketing and Perceiving Yourself (14:00) - Navigating Space and Community Challenges (15:55) - Interpersonal Session Skills (17:00) - Feeling Safe in My Workplace vs In Public, Workplace Wins (20:05) - Financial Exclusion and Structural Violence in Banking for Sex Workers (25:45) - The Power of Resilience, Community and You (27:43) - My Internship at a Sex Work Organisation (28:30) - Learning About the Backpage Shutdown Impact on Sex Workers (30:00) - The Data for Decriminalisation by Amnesty International vs Puritanism (31:17) - Why I Love My Job
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