Show Notes
What if the love you've been chasing was never meant to stay the same?
In this episode, John Kim shares excerpts from his new book, Love Hard on Purpose, and explores how love evolves as we heal. He reflects on the difference between unhealthy, dopamine-driven relationships and the kind of love that challenges us to grow, repair, and become better versions of ourselves.
In this episode:
• Why love isn't just meant to make us happy, but to help us heal
• The difference between healthy love and unhealthy love
• How we confuse intensity with intimacy
• Why conflict and repair are essential to lasting relationships
• The journey from "drug love" to "medicine love"
• A personal reflection on the "B-sides" of life that quietly shape who we become
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🎙️ More about John:
📘 My latest book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest HERE
John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co
📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John’s book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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