384: Toddler Tantrums, Boundaries + Raising Emotionally Safe Kids | Devon Kuntzman
Be Well by Kelly LevequeShow Notes
Toddlerhood doesn’t have to feel like survival mode. In this episode, I sit down with Devon Kuntzman to break down what’s really going on in your toddler’s brain and why so many common parenting approaches backfire.
We get into tantrums vs. meltdowns, emotional regulation, and how to hold boundaries without constant power struggles. Devon shares practical tools to handle defiance, reduce stress, and build a calmer, more connected home.
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Topics Discussed:
→ Why do toddlers have tantrums
→ How to handle toddler defiance calmly
→ What is toddler emotional regulation
→ Tantrums vs meltdowns what’s different
→ How diet affects toddler behavior
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Timestamps:
→ 00:00:00 - Introduction
→ 00:01:43 - Devon’s “Why”
→ 00:04:45 - Toddler Brain 101
→ 00:08:36 - Teaching Emotional Regulation
→ 00:15:03 - Knowing The Plan
→ 00:18:59 - Tantrums vs Meltdowns
→ 00:22:01 - Disrupting Our Stress Response
→ 00:25:40 - Maintaining Boundaries
→ 00:28:21 - Handling Defiance
→ 00:31:55 - Consistency vs Perfection
→ 00:34:35 - The Recalibration Period
→ 00:38:56 - The Core Principles
→ 00:45:01 - Bedtime For Different Ages
→ 00:51:12 - Whining
→ 00:57:42 - Sleep + Nutrition
→ 01:01:30 - High Sugar Breakfasts
→ 01:04:19 - You Can Do Hard Things
Further Listening:
→ The Secret to Raising Resilient, Emotionally Healthy Children | Dr. Billy Garvey
Check Out Devon:
→ IG: @transformingtoddlerhood
→ Website: https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/
→ Book: Transforming Toddlerhood
Check Out Kelly:
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