Show Notes
Shanna's drop-off struggles with her youngest escalate, so she lands on an unconventional solution to improve her family's morning routines. Laura scrambles to find last-minute babysitter coverage so she can attend an all-day music festival without the kids. In this week's "Throwback" segment, Shanna confesses to a split-second decision in fifth-grade band class that hurt a friendship, and shares what she hopes for her own fifth grader, who's navigating similar terrain. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.
Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.
Topics discussed in this episode: • When school drop-off meltdowns keep escalating • Disclosing an ADHD diagnosis to your child's school • What a 504 plan is and when to ask about one • Why leaving 10 minutes earlier changes everything • Sensory triggers that derail a morning • Scrambling for childcare when plans fall through • Talking to kids about friendship conflict and repair • Fifth-grade identity shifts and changing friend groups • Peer pressure and mean-girl dynamics • Using games and novelty to replace nagging • Podcasts kids and parents can both enjoy
Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode: • Greeking Out from National Geographic Kids • Wheel of Names • Daisy Chain Fields Festival • Doechii • Pigeon in a Peanut
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