[Mindset Change] How to Feel More Attractive: Part 1 | Increase Your Self Confidence & Sex Appeal | Episode 049

How to Start Finding Yourself Attractive Why is it so hard to find yourself attractive? Just the idea of saying “I’m sexy” or “I’m hot” without cringing yourself inside out seems utterly impossible to a lot of people.

They would in fact rather be thought of as being unattractive over being believed to think that they themselves are attractive. What on earth is the problem with thinking something so positive about yourself?

In this episode I’m going to be talking about how to find yourself attractive, talking quite starkly about my own journey through this relatively recently.

Reaching a tipping point When I came out of my last long term relationship my belief about how attractive I was couldn’t have been lower. I’m not going to go into the reasons why, that’s not necessary but I wanted to talk to you frankly about my own discovery that I am actually a pretty attractive person.

I started at a point where I thought I was ugly, that no-one would like someone bald, that my body lacked anything sexually interesting about it at all and that there was roughly a zero percent chance that anyone would possibly want to have sex with me.

Like I said, it couldn’t have been lower.

To be honest I spent a good few months just allowing this feeling of physical inadequacy just to sit there doing its thing.

Weirdly this wasn’t the worst thing because given where I was at in my life and with lockdowns in place it actually helped in preventing me from falling into the trap of thinking online dating would have been a good thing for me which it wouldn’t have been.

I was “damaged goods” at that point and subjecting myself to the emotional rollercoaster that online dating can often bring would have put dynamite on the fire.

And I continued to not do anything about it until I had a tipping point moment.

Out of the blue someone told me in no uncertain terms how hot they thought I was.

And I cried...a lot.

I’m very pleased that this was done via message or it would have been a situation of Bridget Jones level cringy-ness

This was the moment where I realised just how unattractive I thought I was and how this might not actually be in alignment with reality. It also reaffirmed something that I knew, I REALLY knew and that it was buried deep down under years and years of feeling so terrible about myself. And that thing was that attractiveness is a mindset.

Read the full Part 1 blog Here

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