Show Notes
Welcome to Episode 3 of No Straight Answers — the podcast where we workshop your predicaments and dilemmas with maximum empathy and minimum usefulness. We kick off with highs and lows, updates on the Christchurch comedy scene, and some hard truths about social media. Then it’s time for your letters: 👉 A listener questions whether his marriage has crossed from “normal rough patch” into gaslighting territory — after an AI told him so. We unpack the dangers of becoming worn down by love, and whether this is just part of long term relationships. 👉 Another listener is stuck in the limbo of a fading friendship — should she keep pushing for connection, or recognise it’s time to let go? We talk reciprocity, seasons of friendship, and why one-sided effort rarely works. Finally, our AMA uncovers laughing-until-you-cry moments and what advice Clayton would give his younger self. If you came for clarity, you’re in the wrong place. But if you came for honesty, laughter, and a reminder that you’re not alone in life’s messiness — you’re exactly where you should be.
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