#266 Reclaiming Pleasure: Healing, Curiosity, and the Power of Embodiment (with Annette Benedetti)
Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam FraserShow Notes
In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Annette Benedetti—Portland-based sex and intimacy coach, writer, and host of the acclaimed show Talk Sex With Annette—about reclaiming pleasure, power, and connection through curiosity and compassion. Ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts globally, Annette’s work dives deep into taboo-breaking conversations around kink, trauma, and empowerment, informed by both her professional expertise and lived experience as a survivor. We explore how cultural narratives and trauma shape our relationship with sexuality, the body, and intimacy—and how healing begins with awareness, consent, and curiosity. Annette shares practical insights on rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma, moving away from performance-based sex toward mutual exploration, and helping men appreciate their own bodies as worthy of pleasure and beauty. A raw, empowering conversation about dismantling shame, embracing embodiment, and creating space for authentic healing and pleasure.
Key Points: @ 0:52 Barriers to embracing feminine power @ 4:39 Navigating trauma and its impacts @ 9:43 Rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma @ 16:31 Reframing goals and expectations around sex @ 47:30 Appreciating the male form and body
Relevant Links:Annette Benedetti Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Annette Benedetti YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette
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