Katherine Wela Bogen on What Gay Men Get Wrong About Bisexuality and Why It Costs All of Them
40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.Show Notes
Gay men know what it cost to come out. Bisexual people paid that same price and then got rejected by the community that was supposed to finally understand. Katherine Wela Bogen is a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology, scholar-activist with 600K followers, and author of the debut novel Queering Him. She and Rick get into the real conversation gay and bisexual men keep not having: where the experiences genuinely overlap, where they do not, and why assuming you already understand bisexuality because you know gay identity causes real damage. This one asks gay men over 40 to look at a blind spot most of them did not know they had.
Key Takeaways: Where gay and bisexual experience genuinely meet and where they part ways Why bisexual people have worse health outcomes than gay or lesbian individuals How double discrimination operates differently than what gay men experience What it actually costs to get rejected by the community that should get it most What Queering Him is and why Katie wrote it
About Katherine
In her own words, Katherine Wela Bogen is “first, a storyteller; second, a scholar-activist; and third, a joyful little freak.”
Bisexual and Jewish, she grew up in rural New England. A doctoral candidate in clinical psychology, studying the intersections of bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink, she has published more than forty peer-reviewed papers and is the host of the political podcast SuperHumanizer.
Bogen’s 600k+ social media followers will recognize her as @k.w.bogen from her public-facing scholar activism. Queering Him, the first in the Avra and Kieran trilogy, is Bogen’s debut novel. Connect With Katherine
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