EP. 20 SEN Support Explained: Do You Need an EHCP? (UK)
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If your child's school just told you that your child will be getting SEN Support and you smiled and nodded along but have absolutely no idea what that actually means... this episode is for you. You're not alone. 88% of children with SEND in the UK are on SEN Support (not EHCPs), but most parents walk out of that meeting thinking: what now? Does my child get pulled out of class? Do they have a different teacher? What's the actual impact? I'm breaking down the entire UK SEND system as it exists right now in 2026. Not the reforms coming later. The system you're dealing with this week. In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between SEN Support and an EHCP (and which one your child actually needs) The Graduated Approach: Assess, Plan, Do, Review (and what each step should look like in practice) The 3 questions that immediately show whether your child is getting real support or vague promises The EHCP process from start to finish: who qualifies, the 20 week timeline (and why it actually takes 9 to 12 months), and what makes applications succeed How to work WITH your child's school instead of against them (plus when to escalate) Partnership strategies that get results without burning bridges A 7 step action plan you can start this week This episode is for you if: Your child just got put on SEN Support and you need to know what happens next You're trying to figure out if your child needs an EHCP The school keeps saying "we're monitoring" but nothing is changing You want to advocate for your child but don't know what questions to ask You're worried about coming across as "that parent" You need scripts and tools, not just sympathy What you'll walk away with: Clarity on what SEN Support actually means and what to expect Confidence to ask the right questions at your next SENCO meeting The ability to track whether interventions are actually happening or just promised A concrete plan for this week (not someday, this week) I'm also sharing a story about a mum who completely reframed her approach with school and got three accommodations put in place within a week. It's a masterclass in collaborative advocacy.
Download the free guide: Everything from this episode (the 3 questions, email templates, timelines, evidence trackers, step by step scripts) is in one comprehensive guide. Grab it at https://chipper-builder-2651.kit.com/445fa9f98d Resources mentioned: IPSEA (Independent Provider of Special Education Advice): ipsea.org.uk SENDIASS (free impartial advice and support) SOS!SEN: sossen.org.uk Connect with me: Instagram: @themindfultoolbox_podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@betteringyouthtutors
A note before you listen: This episode covers a lot. I'd suggest having a notebook handy or downloading the guide first so you can follow along. If you need to pause and come back, that's completely fine. This isn't going anywhere. And remember: you don't need to be an expert on the SEND system. You just need to know the right questions to ask. You've got this.
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