Addiction Unlimited Podcast

What Am I Doing Wrong?” (6 Non-Negotiables for Real Change)

Addiction Unlimited Podcast

Show Notes

If you keep asking yourself "What am I doing wrong?" — this episode is for you.

Most people relapse dozens of times before they actually get it right.

And if that's you, I know how exhausting that cycle is.

But here's the truth: There’s nothing wrong with you. It's not that you don't want it badly enough.

It's that the answer you need isn't about actions and distractions.

It's about the mindset shifts that create real, lasting change.

Today, I'm giving you the 6 non-negotiables that separate people who actually change from people who keep starting over.

This isn't a checklist. This isn't about doing more things.

This is about shifting how you think, how you show up, and who you become.

These 6 principles apply to recovery — but they also apply to life. Career. Relationships. Health. Any major transformation.

This is your personal code of conduct for real change.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- 2:43: Why discomfort doesn't mean bad — it just means you're working a new muscle

- 5:07: The real sacrifices recovery requires (and the ones you conveniently forget you already made)

- 7:11: How to stop controlling what other people think and start prioritizing what you know

- 9:17: Why brutal honesty is the only way forward — and how ego keeps you stuck

- 10:53: What willingness actually looks like (hint: your feelings can't run the show)

- 13:15: Why you have to grow the fuck up — whether you feel like it or not

- 14:00: The bear analogy that will change how you think about your alcoholism

Listen in and decide: Are you ready to stop doing busy work and start doing the real work? Because that's where actual change happens.

LINKS MENTIONED:

- Recovery Starter Kit

- Book a Free Consultation Call: addictionunlimited.com/call

- Related Episode: Why You’re Sober But Still Have the Same Problems

- Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/addictionunlimited

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