Why Your Partner Shuts Down: Emotional Immaturity and Childhood Wounds | Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Marriage Rehab: Exposing Narcissistic & Emotional AbuseShow Notes
Why does your partner shut down, become defensive, or seem unable to engage emotionally when conflict arises?
In this episode of Marriage Rehab, Dr. David Hawkins sits down with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Together, they explore how emotionally immature parenting can shape a person’s ability to manage emotions, tolerate distress, practice empathy, and build emotional intimacy later in life.
Dr. Gibson explains why an accomplished adult may still respond like an overwhelmed child during relationship conflict. She and Dr. Hawkins discuss the childhood wounds behind emotional shutdown, defensiveness, blame, avoidance, and emotional reactivity, as well as why repeatedly explaining the problem often fails to create meaningful change.
Most importantly, this conversation offers hope. Emotional maturity is not something a person either has or does not have. With willingness, self-reflection, psychoeducation, accountability, and practice, healthier ways of responding can be learned.
In this episode, you’ll learn: What emotional maturity looks like in an adult relationship Why emotionally immature partners shut down, blow up, deflect, or withdraw How childhood experiences affect emotional intimacy in marriage Why professional or personal success does not always translate into relational maturity What Dr. Gibson means by “projecting health” onto a partner Why people struggle to self-reflect when they feel threatened or under fire How distress tolerance, empathy, and emotional regulation can be developed Why understanding the roots of a behavior does not remove the need for accountability What creates the possibility for genuine, lasting change
Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson is the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and the new book How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child: Your Blueprint to a Lifetime of Happiness and Success for Your Child.
Learn more about Dr. Gibson and her work at LindsayCGibson.com.
Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center specializes in helping individuals and couples address narcissistic and emotional abuse, destructive relationship patterns, and relationships in crisis. To speak with our Client Care Team, call 206-219-0145 or visit MarriageRecoveryCenter.com.
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