Show Notes
You'd never blame your nutritionist for a diet you didn't follow—so why do we blame our coach the same way?
What actually predicts lasting change—intention, or follow-through? On this episode of Marriage Rehab, host Dr. David Hawkins talks with Lee Kaufman, a coach at the Marriage Recovery Center with 25 years' experience, about what truly positions clients for success. Kaufman unpacks his "amplitude of intention" framework and answers the question every client asks: what's your success rate? "I'm a hundred percent successful with the people that work really hard," he says. For spouses exhausted by narcissistic patterns or stalled healing, this conversation offers clarity, structure, and real hope.
Lee Kaufman is a Life & Relationship Coach at the Marriage Recovery Center, where he has been helping people help themselves for over 25 years. Early in his career, he spent over a decade in the financial and legal industries, giving him unique insight into how business, finances, and family are inextricably connected. Having worked with high performers, industry leaders, and global influencers, Kaufman brings deep expertise in effective communication, healthy boundaries, emotional understanding, empathy, personal responsibility, anger management, and health coaching to help clients become their best selves.
In This Episode: (00:00) Lee Kaufman returns to talk positioning for success (05:47) The asymptote metaphor for lifelong growth work (09:58) Amplitude of intention meets repetition (16:02) What MRC's real success rate looks like (20:57) Therapeutic listening vs. skill-building coaching (26:17) Honesty, intention, and never-easier change Share with someone who would benefit Like and subscribe to hear all of our future episodes!
About the Show Marriage Rehab is hosted by Dr. David B. Hawkins, Director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. Each episode cuts through the noise of pop psychology and social media labels to give listeners something rarer: clarity. The show is built for people who suspect something is deeply wrong in their marriage but can't quite name it — and for the professionals who support them. With a focus on emotional abuse, narcissistic patterns, and the often-invisible dynamics of control and entitlement, Dr. Hawkins brings in leading clinicians, researchers, and authors to help listeners understand what's actually happening in their relationships — and what, if anything, can be done about it. The Marriage Recovery Center offers comprehensive assessments, specialized counseling, and structured programs for both partners.
Resources: Marriage Recovery Center — https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/ Lee Kaufman (bio, MRC) — https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/meet-lee-kaufman/ Marriage Recovery Center 🌐 marriagerecoverycenter.com Phone: 206-219-0145
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