Show Notes
Some of the hardest truths about relationships are the ones we spend the most time avoiding. I’m talking about the conversations that challenge the way we think about marriage, love, resentment, breakups, and even our own intuition.
I start with a controversial idea: I think marriages need to die. Not because divorce is the goal, but because long-term relationships can’t survive if the old version of the marriage is expected to stay the same forever. Growth asks us to let old dynamics end so a new relationship can be born.
I also answer some of your relationship questions about resentment, breakups, choosing the wrong partners, trusting your gut, and what happens when love activates old attachment wounds.
I talk about:
Why marriages need death and rebirth to keep growing
How life transitions reshape relationships
Why feelings and capacity are two different things
The difference between loving someone and choosing someone
What resentment is communicating before it destroys a relationship
How overfunctioning creates hidden resentment
Why breakup anger often belongs to an older wound
How to move through anger without letting it make decisions
Why intuition whispers and anxiety argues
How childhood experiences shape what my gut tells me
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