Show Notes
I’m breaking down the biggest ways I think we sabotage our own healing, relationships, and lives. This conversation came from a post that resonated with millions of people and grew into a series because these patterns are so common - and so easy to mistake for growth.
I talk about why insight isn’t the same as change, why breakups aren’t something we simply “get over,” why divorce doesn’t automatically mean failure, and why chasing happiness can keep us disconnected from a life that actually feels meaningful.
I talk about:
Why knowing my attachment style doesn’t automatically change my behavior.
How self-awareness can become another place to hide.
Why healing eventually becomes about execution, not explanation.
Why I don’t believe we truly get over people we deeply loved.
How grief includes losing the future I imagined with someone.
Why divorce doesn’t erase a real or meaningful marriage.
How staying because of fear is different from staying because of love.
Why happiness was never meant to be my permanent destination.
What I’ve started choosing instead of making happiness my North Star.
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