Show Notes
Clayton and Suran are back with more fence-sitting advice, inappropriate laughter, and just enough honesty to make you wonder if we should be trusted with your dilemmas. We start with highs and lows - milestone birthdays, party chaos, and the joy/pain of being back in offices and airports again. Then onto two listener letters: Letter 1 — The Goodbye Kiss Conundrum: Greg from Huntsbury writes in about a social ritual gone rogue: whenever his friends come over (and drinks are involved), the wife always lands a kiss that hovers between cheek and lips — sometimes fully landing. Greg’s not sure if it’s harmless affection, low-level attraction, or a potential landmine if their spouses notice. We ask: what’s the real issue - the act itself, or the fear of being caught? How much attraction is “normal,” and when does it cross the line? Letter 2 — The ADHD Divide: Dan’s wife has recently been diagnosed with ADHD. She’s empathetic and hardworking but struggles with organisation, reactivity, and daily “boring” tasks. Dan feels like the load is falling on him - and worries the diagnosis is becoming an excuse. We unpack executive function (working memory, self-restraint, cognitive flexibility), the realities of ADHD at home, and how to focus on strengths while addressing the friction. There are tangents, of course - forgotten glasses, unpaid car insurance, and a few “weird shit my wife did this week” anecdotes. We round things off with an AMA: Clayton on alcohol, Suran on regrets, and a little too much candour about lives half-lived and still in progress. Not therapy, just two long-time friends oversharing, workshopping, and occasionally confusing you more than helping. Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Follow us on Instagram: @nostraightanswersnz Content note: mild language and mild oversharing.
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