Show Notes
You’ve cleared the table, signed the form, found the missing shoe, and the other adult in the house is sitting down. The quiet count starts again: I always do this. I’m the one who remembers everything.
This episode looks at why that count almost always tilts your way. You’ll hear what happened when researchers asked couples how much of the housework was theirs, why your own effort is easier to remember than anyone else’s, and why keeping score tends to make small disagreements heavier, especially on hard days.
None of this means pretending the load is even when it isn’t. It means swapping a question that keeps resentment alive for one that helps: what do I need right now, and what might I not be seeing?
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