The Truth About Affairs, Shame & Why Relationships Break Down with Victoria Shalet
The Health ReviewShow Notes
Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in love — even when we know they hurt us?
This week, I’m joined by Victoria Shalet, a Humanistic Psychotherapist and Certified Relational Life Therapist, for an honest conversation about the emotional patterns we carry into our relationships, often without realising it.
Victoria explains what happens inside Relational Life Therapy, and why working through each other’s wounds together can lead to more compassion, better communication, and a deeper sense of connection. We talk about how childhood experiences shape the way we love today, and why shame — even when it’s subtle — can quietly run the show.
We also explore:
• why people-pleasers lose themselves in relationships • how to repair after conflict rather than repeat old cycles • what often sits underneath an affair, and what it really takes to rebuild trust • how to start healing old traumas and the “not enough” stories we carry • why so many millennials and Gen Z are choosing to stay single longer
It’s an insightful conversation about modern love, self-worth, and the work of becoming more emotionally connected — both with others and with ourselves.
Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, you’ll take something from this episode!
Victoria's website: https://www.spaceinme.com/
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