The Cost of People-Pleasing: Sari Botton on Money, Reinvention, and Finding Yourself Later in Life
HerMoney with Jean ChatzkyShow Notes
Have you ever looked up and realized you've been living someone else's version of your life? Sari Botton, editor and writer behind Oldster Magazine and author of And You May Find Yourself: Confessions of a Late-Blooming Gen X Weirdo, knows that feeling intimately. And she's turned it into a body of work that has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people.
In this episode:
The financial cost of people-pleasing and deferring to others on money
How women in the Oldster community have reinvented themselves professionally in their 50s, 60s, and beyond
Why we put off wills and end-of-life planning, and what it actually costs us
The "compare and despair" trap around money milestones
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