The Self-Led Leader

Why you don't sound like an authority yet (even when you know your stuff)

The Self-Led Leader

Show Notes

Welcome to The Psychology of... series! In this episode, I'm explaining the psychology behind why you don't feel like an authority yet, and why the tips, courses, and frameworks you've already tried keep failing you. Most advice on sounding like an authority will tell you to fix your posture, use a structured communication formula, or project more confidence. Do the thing, get the result. But what if the reason none of that has worked has nothing to do with your communication skills but rather is because of your underlying psychology? In today's episode, we're covering how your personal definition of authority is shaping how you show (and why it's working against you), the hidden mismatch between you and becoming an authority with your presence, and how to develop a sense of authority that feels authentic and lasts. If you've ever walked out of a meeting knowing you didn't show up the way you wanted to, taken a course and still found yourself rambling, or felt like you were performing confidence rather than actually owning it... this episode will finally give you the psychological reason why, and where to start instead.

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