
Stop trying to motivate your team - you're solving the wrong problem (ft. Ben Carroll)
The Self-Led LeaderShow Notes
Most leaders are taught to push harder, communicate better, or “fix” their team when performance drops. But in reality, most performance issues aren’t about effort, attitude, or even skill. In this episode, I’m joined by Ben Carroll, a healthcare executive and former military leader with over 20 years of experience, to explore what leaders often get wrong about performance, motivation, and what it actually takes to lead effectively in high-stakes environments. We talk about why: Motivation is often a misdiagnosis, not a solution The best leaders focus on removing barriers, not applying pressure Confidence and performance are often the result of role fit, not mindset alone Executive presence becomes more influential than words as you grow in leadership Emotional intelligence isn’t enough (and where emotional maturity actually comes in) This conversation goes into the deeper psychological dynamics that shape how people think, behave, and perform at work. Because leadership isn’t about controlling people. It’s about creating the conditions where they can actually succeed.
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