Aging With Power: Filling The Gaps. Advocating For Your Health.
Midlife Unfiltered: The Season Of MeShow Notes
Aging with power. Not grace. Power. What does that mean for you? And how do we do it? In this podcast episode on Midlife Unfiltered, Anita explores what it means for women in midlife to age with power. Taking back our agency, advocating for health. Because there are GAPS. Lifespan - Health span = 10-15 year Gap: We may be living longer but we are not living well, longer. Statistically (Australian statistics) if like me, you’re a white woman born in 1967 you may potentially live to be about 85 years old (lifespan). Maybe up in the late 80’s. Your Health span (how long you are healthy) is potentially going to decline (with obvious symptoms) in your mid 70’s. That’s a GAP of 10-15 years! Statistically speaking. What do you think those years look like? Lived experience - Anita talks about how she’s seen these numbers become reality, in the care home her Dad was in for the last 6 months of his life (with stage 4 cancer and dementia). Around 90% of the people in that very caring home were women. With multiple chronic conditions that were being managed for them. Most with mobility issues, some with mental health conditions. Many were lonely. They were receiving good care. Most were existing. Women’s Health Research Gaps: About 30 years ago (in 1993) the US mandated women be included in clinical medical research. In Australia it was ‘best efforts’. That’s about to change. In 2026 Australia firms up its inclusion of females in clinical research where evidence of inclusion needs to be demonstrated to qualify for funding. Anita talks about that is more detail in the podcast chat. 30 years may seem a long time but in the context of clinical research it’s not. For good reason, it takes time. So research findings including women are now becoming more available for us to read and talk about. But in the scheme of things, it’s just the beginning. We have a long way to go, but we are moving in the right direction. Education System Gaps: Underpinned by research gaps, Anita talks about the gaps in our tertiary and secondary education systems. The lack of information and knowledge in texts, resources and curricula, which means there are gaps in what our health team members know about us. Why in secondary schools is it not mandatory to teach children about how their body systems work? The basics. Beyond sex education and the reproductive system. Maybe some schools do. Hats off to them, that’s great. But the majority don’t. It seems one mimics the other? Health System Gaps - Specialty Silos: Modern medicine is brilliant at acute practices that save lives, that extend how long we live. Treatments for symptom management of chronic conditions that do work. But in saving lives, extending them, a gap appears. The likelihood that more of us will be living with those chronic conditions, increases. The Specialist. We have specialists with their deeper knowledge and experience to help us manage those chronic conditions like arthritis, cardiovascular problems, diabetes, dementia (the #1 cause of death in Australia for women)…the list goes on. The focus of care is typically short term - 1,2,3 maybe 5 years but what then? What does your Health Span Road Map look like for Future you? More gaps to fill.
Each specialty represents a silo. We go from one to another to treat each specific condition. That’s great, but it promotes gaps. Gaps between silos that must be filled if we are to get a complete, a better picture of our overall health. Who fills the gaps between Silos? Lived Experience: Anita talks about her own specialist experience and how she filled that gap, advocating for her bone health. The Old Way Vs The New Way: We are the Transition generation, living in the Digital Age where the pace of change, the volume of information at our finger tips is mind blowing. But how do we know what’s true? Anita talks about how this puts a greater importance on the relationships we have with our health team members. She talks about the ‘old way’ where we believed
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Squash is often called the world’s healthiest sport. In this episode of the Midlife Unfiltered podcast my squash coach Caleb Johnson joins me to unpack why. I also share my own return to the game after 30 years. Squash is on the rise again. Is it for you? The ball’s in your court 🙂 In this episode we talk about: * Caleb – as an Australian professional squash player, squash and fitness coach, runs a junior academy and squash advocate. * What makes squash different from most racquet sports - it has no net that separates players (for starters) and the benefits of that. * Racquet sports – in order of popularity * A brief history of squash and its evolution – the popular years and its rapid decline * Squash as an inclusion in the 2028 LA Olympics – and its rise again. * The health benefits of racquet sports in general * The physical health benefits of squash specifically: high calories burned (600–1,000 calories/hour), cardio challenging, muscles and bone benefits from multi-movements and multi-directional impacts – without the level of injury of other forms of sport * Tarek Momen vs. Rafael Nadal: a wild real-world comparison of match intensity – how tennis and squash compare. Not to knock tennis (we both love tennis) but to highlight the differences and impacts on health. * High intensity, ‘interval training’ nature of the sport PLUS endurance. * Brain and neural health benefits – squash is called ‘chess on legs’ – split second decision making and anticipation of where the ball is going next and where to place it. * Caleb shares a personal story about his friend with 7% vision who restored vision. through playing squash – he’s hoping it will be studied in the future. * Bone & Muscle health – how it helps our bones and muscles (and the study that shows this) * The ease to integrate it into life – doesn’t take up much time, can practice on your own (no balls to chase on the other side of the net!), build skills, play socially, competitively and it’s inexpensive. * Squash’s Olympic debut at LA 2028, and what it means for the sport’s future * The sport everyone’s Dad used to play – now it’s on the rise again. * How to start playing squash – as a new sport; * How to get back into squash again – the mind-body gap, and how to do it safely – people like me coming back to squash after 3 decades away (we are the risk group guys); warming up for as long as you play for starters. Here’s to squash in the 2028 in the LA Olympics and then 2032 in our home town of Brisbane, Australia. Get out there and start squashing in your local area. Unfortunately, our audio mucked up in the final minutes of our chat, sorry. Thank goodness for the subtitles! Find Caleb: Caleb Johnson Squash - Instagram, Facebook, and website Related Midlife Unfiltered episodes: * Bone Chatter: Strong Bones Are More Than Density * Re-Entry in Midlife: Who You Were Before Kids If you’d like a full deep-dive - history, global participation, the studies behind every claim, and more…keep reading below. The full story: I picked up a squash racquet when I was about 6. After 30 years since competing, I’m back playing squash for the health benefits I know it brings. Join Caleb Johnson, my fabulous squash coach and I as we explore this brilliant, unique racquet sport. It’s been called the #1 all-round healthiest sport and is often referred to as ‘chess on legs’. Meet Caleb. Caleb is a professional squash player and coach, currently ranked 311 in the world and #15 in Australia. He started playing at 14, (late by professional standards, where most competitors start at 4, 5, or 6) and became Australia’s #1 under-19 player by 18. He turned professional at 22. His goal…crack the top 100, and maybe, just maybe, an Olympic team spot in 2028. Alongside his own playing career, he coaches clients from age 5 to 85. Squash is different from other racquet sports. Unlike tennis, table tennis, pickleball, badminton, or padel, players share the exact same physical space. There’s no net that separate
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