Show Notes
In this episode, Rachel from the PDA Society is joined by Riko Ryuki to explore what it is like parenting as a PDAer.
Riko shares openly about raising three children, two of whom have PDA profiles, while navigating their own PDA and additional disabilities. Together, Rachel and Riko discuss how parenting can look and feel different when you also experience high demand sensitivity yourself.
The conversation explores the realities of everyday family life, including adapting routines to meet individual needs, responding flexibly rather than rigidly, and understanding that even children with the same profile can require very different approaches. Riko reflects on being more child-led, matching expectations to capacity, and resisting more traditional "because I said so" parenting models.
Part 1 focuses on lived experience, connection and reframing. Riko speaks about the strengths that can come from shared understanding, the moments of joy and closeness that can emerge when anxiety is managed well, and some of the misconceptions they have encountered from others about parenting differently.
Key Themes
* Parenting with a PDA profile * Being child-led and adapting to fluctuating needs * Raising multiple neurodivergent children with different support requirements * Misconceptions about flexible parenting approaches * The strengths and connection that can come from shared neurodivergence
Deep Diver Subscriber Episode
For those who would like to go further, Part 2, an exclusive "Deep Diver" subscriber episode, is available through our Training Hub. You can access it here: https://training.pdasociety.org.uk/pda-podcasts/
Disclaimer
The views and opinions expressed by guest speakers in this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the PDA Society. While we aim to provide balanced and inclusive discussions, individual experiences and perspectives may vary. The PDA Society is committed to using language and terminology that reflects the preferences of PDA and autistic people, but sometimes our guests may use language and terminology which differs. Appearance on our podcast is not an endorsement of an individual, and not all of our guests will align with our position on the issues discussed.
Further sources of support and information
* PDA Society Training Hub: https://training.pdasociety.org.uk/pda-podcasts/ * PDA Society Website: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/ * PDA Society Training: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/support-and-training/training/ * PDA Society Support Service: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/support-and-training/support/
Guest's links:
* YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/rikoryuki * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RikosPDApage1/ * Blog: https://dragonriko.wordpress.com/
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