34. Stop Blaming Your Parents, Partner & Perimenopause

They've become symbols. Symbols we use to debate gender, morality, mental health, victimhood, accountability and who we believe is good or evil. In Episode 61 of the Inner Self-Confidence Podcast, I'm joined by registered psychologist and certified executive coach Ilia Poznak for a conversation about something I think we're rapidly losing: our ability to sit in the grey

I sit down with Priscilla — author, activist, coach and self-described cycle breaker — for a raw and honest conversation about childhood trauma, domestic violence, the systems surrounding survivors, and what it actually takes to break a cycle before it breaks you. Priscilla survived childhood sexual abuse by her grandfather and later found herself in a domestic violence relationship. She went on to study law, but ultimately chose not to practise after questioning the very systems that are supposed to protect vulnerable people. We also have an important conversation about modern psychology and therapy. Priscilla shares her own experiences of seeking professional support and, at times, feeling unsupported and further traumatised by the people and systems she turned to for help. We talk about survival mode, shame, self-trust, finding your voice, recognising the less obvious signs of abuse, and the difference between surviving your past and actually creating a life beyond it. And perhaps most importantly: Are generational cycles broken in one huge courageous moment — or through thousands of tiny choices we make differently every single day? Because being a cycle breaker isn't about pretending the past didn't happen. It's deciding: it ends with me. IN THIS EPISODE: • Childhood sexual trauma and its impact into adulthood • Domestic violence and the red flags we often don't recognise • Why survivors can blame themselves • When therapy causes more harm instead of healing • The limitations of our legal and mental-health systems • Rebuilding self-trust after trauma • Finding your voice after years of silence • Breaking generational patterns • Turning pain into purpose CONNECT WITH PRISCILLA Instagram: @cyclebreakercoach https://www.instagram.com/cyclebreakercoach/ Website + Resources: https://bio.site/cyclebreakercoach

Do you constantly feel like there are never enough hours in the day? What if you don’t actually have a time problem… but an alignment problem? In this episode, I’m sharing my Time Mastery framework and challenging the idea that becoming more productive is the answer. We all get the same 1,440 minutes each day—but where are yours actually going? And more importantly, are they going toward the life you say you want? We’ll explore your values, vision and time, why everything feels urgent when you’re unclear on what matters, how distractions and context-switching steal your attention, and the Zones Framework for protecting both focused work and genuine rest. Time Mastery Time Mastery Because Time Mastery isn’t about doing more. It’s about aligning your time with what you say matters most—and protecting that alignment fiercely. Time Mastery 🌐 katiedelimon.com 📲 Instagram @katiedelimon

At 29 years old and 17 weeks pregnant with triplets, Ashleigh Conwell’s life changed in an instant when her husband suddenly died. In this incredibly honest conversation, Ashleigh shares what grief really looks like—the shock, the nervous system response, the pressure to be “strong,” and the mountain of practical decisions and paperwork that still have to happen when your world has fallen apart. We talk about what people get wrong about grief, what actually helps, why workplaces need to do better, and how you learn to build a life alongside a loss you never chose. Ashleigh is now the founder of Yellow Falcon — grief support, made practical, helping bereaved people, their supporters and workplaces navigate life after loss. 💛 CONNECT WITH ASHLEIGH 🌐 Yellow Falcon: https://www.yellowfalcon.com.au 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleigh.conwell/ 🔥 CONNECT WITH KATIE 🌐 Website: https://www.katiedelimon.com 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/katiedelimon 📖 Trust the Flames: My Wild Ride from Mindlessness to Mindfulness: https://www.katiedelimon.com/trust-the-flames 🧠 FREE Nervous System Toolkit: https://www.katiedelimon.com/toolkit

What happens when you spend thousands of dollars to live in the middle of a desert, covered in dust, with no proper shower… and somehow call it one of the most magical experiences of your life? 😂 Welcome to Burning Man! I met my husband Kenny there in 2015, experienced some of the wildest synchronicities of my life, and discovered a community unlike anything I've ever experienced. But Burning Man is SO much more than a "festival." In this episode, I'm sharing what Burning Man actually is, why I keep going back, the 10 Principles that make it so extraordinary, and six life lessons I've brought home from the desert. 🔥 The 10 Principles of Burning Man: Radical Inclusion Gifting Decommodification Radical Self-Reliance Radical Self-Expression Communal Effort Civic Responsibility Leaving No Trace Participation Immediacy From a place with no judgement to the freedom of being off the grid...Burning Man has taught me that life isn't meant to be watched from the sidelines. It's meant to be LIVED. Have fun and play!! 📚 WANT MORE OF MY STORY? In Chapter 19 of my memoir, Trust the Flames: My Wild Ride from Mindlessness to Mindfulness, I share more about my Burning Man journey and how I met my husband, Kenny. 📖 Get your copy of Trust the Flames 🌐 Visit my website for coaching, nervous system resources, and more! 📲Follow me on INSTAGRAM