Ep 148. Beyond Codependency: The Truth About Self-Worth and Healing with Psychotherapist Jackson Goding
Behind The Smile with Ash ButterssShow Notes
What happens when self-worth becomes the missing piece in healing? In this episode, Ash sits down with Trauma Specialist and Psychotherapist, Jackson Goding, for a raw and thought-provoking conversation about what it really takes to recover, grow, and build authentic connection.
Jackson opens up about his own journey through codependency, the reality of doing deep trauma work, and why self-worth sits at the heart of true healing. Together, they explore the often messy path of relationships, meditation, and emotional regulation, unravelling why personal growth is rarely linear and almost never easy.
This episode goes far beyond the surface of “self-care.” It’s about courage, consistency, and the daily non-negotiables that help us return to ourselves again and again. Expect honesty, humour, and plenty of takeaways to help you nurture your own sense of worth and connection.
Episode chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Jackson Goding and His Work 02:45 Living in Sydney and Future Plans 05:33 Daily Life and Mindfulness Practices 08:31 The Challenge of Powerlessness and Surrender 11:14 Meditation: The Struggle and Its Importance 14:04 Hiding Behind a Smile: Personal Struggles 17:00 Relationships as Mirrors for Personal Growth 19:40 The Complexity of Relationships and Recovery 22:21 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist 24:59 Core Beliefs and Their Impact on Identity 31:02 Navigating Shame and Self-Worth 31:46 Understanding Triggers and Responses 33:07 Effective Communication in Relationships 35:06 The Impact of Past Experiences 36:53 Identifying and Expressing Needs 39:59 The Importance of Boundaries 41:36 Self-Accountability and Inner Child Work 44:24 Defining Codependency 48:10 The Challenges of Recovery from Codependency 52:57 Staying Accountable in Relationships 56:12 Establishing Non-Negotiables for Self-Care 01:02:26 Finding Balance in Relationships
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