Libido, GSM & Vaginal Health: WTF Is Happening to My Lady Parts? Part 1 of 2
The Luminescence Podcast with Schuyler GrantShow Notes
When estrogen starts to decline, the vagina is one of the first places you feel it, and one of the last things women talk about. In this episode, we're going there.
In this episode of the Luminescence Podcast, Schuyler Grant sits down with Dr. Somi Javaid and Dr. Sarah de la Torre — two OB-GYNs who specialize in women's sexual health — plus Elena Brower, who brings the honest, personal perspective we all need.
Together they break down what's actually happening inside the body, from tissue changes and UTIs to libido that's gone quiet and orgasms that feel out of reach.
They discuss:
What genital urinary syndrome of menopause (GSM) actually is — why estrogen and testosterone are essential to vaginal tissue health, sensation, and lubrication, and why this affects nearly everyone
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire — why most women have always been wired for the latter, and what that means for navigating changes in midlife
How low libido shows up before you even realize hormones are involved — and why your Peloton seat may tip you off first
What happens to fibroids, endometriosis, and PMDD during perimenopause — the changes to expect and what shifts after menopause
The truth about orgasm in midlife — what the data says, what anatomy has to do with it, and why inattention may be the biggest factor
For any woman who wants the real conversation about sexual health in midlife — no awkwardness, no hedging, zero judgment.
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