
181 - Why Your Mind Goes Blank When You Speak Under Pressure
Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson: communication coaching for humble leadersShow Notes
I’ve asked more than 2,000 people ‘what’s your biggest challenge, frustration or issue’ when it comes to speaking, and the answers are the same, over and over again. ‘My mind goes blank when all eyes are on me’ is one of the most common responses, so today I’m talking about WHY this happens, how it’s NOT a sign of incompetence or lack of smarts, and how to stop it happening to you. Listen in to hear: Why having a mental blank is SO normal and is NOT a sign of not knowing your stuff
How you can reframe, instantly, that sense of pressure, to alleviate the normal nervous system response
How to stop the mental scramble or verbal diarrhoea that happens when we feel pressure to perform (or be right)
Why ‘just backing yourself’ isn’t a strategy that will work
A short practice to relieve the pressure you’re feeling in these situations
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