Not Where You Want To Be? How To Reframe Midlife Challenges & Embrace Growth
Meegan Cares About MidlifeShow Notes
When I work with women in midlife, I look for common threads in how we talk about our experience, because ultimately the words point us to our inner experience and how we can break free!
I often hear my group program participants say 'I'm not where I want to be!' during The Midlife Upgrade Course.
Feeling stuck, lost, and unsure of your life's direction are all such common experiences for women in midlife, that just hearing other women express similar frustrations is supportive in and of itself.
And I think we can go a step further and shoot for a psychological reframe which emphasizes the importance of accepting where you are and letting go of self-judgement or comparison to societal expectations.
Easier said than done, I know, but I hope that this episode where I reflect on my own journey and not being where I want to be as I hit my 53rd birthday, will give you an experience of support and inspiration.
Grab your headphones, take a listen and let's walk this imperfect adventure of midlife together!
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