Show Notes
On the podcast this week, I speak with Emma Perks, a pelvic health physiotherapist, about sexual and pelvic health during midlife.
Navigating sexual health during menopause and midlife can be challenging, particularly since it coincides with other major changes in life and there remains so much that isn't openly discussed.
In this episode we talk about everything from decreased sexual desire and what to do about it, vaginal dryness, and urinary incontinence, to the benefits of vaginal moisturiser - just like facial moisturiser but not, of course, for your face!
Emma debunks myths about sex and explores societal pressures that hinder sexual experiences.
We also touch on the significance of challenging societal and gender constructs and important ways to communicate when dealing with decreased sexual desire.
Join us as we tackle these important and often taboo topics and provide valuable advice and insights to enhance your sexual health and well-being.
This is the conversation I wish someone had with me 10 years ago!
Timestamp: 00:00:55 Public health physiotherapist specializing in pelvic health. 00:04:10 Summarized: Natural changes during a woman's menstrual cycle can affect sexual interest and physical changes. Perimenopause is similar to puberty in terms of hormonal fluctuations and physical symptoms. Symptoms during perimenopause include vaginal dryness and urinary incontinence. These symptoms may vary but can be managed.00:13:47 Simple solutions for addressing sexual health.00:19:37 Using lubricants can prevent dryness during sex and reduce the need for more lube. 00:24:51 Juggling multiple responsibilities creates stress and expectations. Women's arousal differs from men's.00:32:29 Understand sexual equality and explore other methods.00:36:13 Communication, variety, and sexual aids are normal.00:40:11 Invest in exchange for fruitful intimacy and satisfaction.00:43:30 The Less you have, the less you want. Links & Products mentioned: Emma Perks Full Circle Physiotherapy https://fcphysio.co.nz/ Dipsea app - Short & Sexy Audio Stories Yes VM Vaginal Moisturiser Olive & Bee Intimate Cream
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