
Show Notes
What I Discussed With Angela Burk… - Why so many women spend decades putting everyone else's needs before their own—and what happens when they finally stop. - How divorce became the unexpected catalyst for Angela's journey of sexual self-discovery and self-pleasure. - Why understanding your own body is the first step towards having better sex with a partner. - How shame, silence and lack of sex education have left many women over 50 disconnected from pleasure. - Why finding a safe, communicative partner can completely transform your experience of intimacy. - How conversations about menopause, libido and sexual health are finally becoming more open—and why we still have a long way to go. - Why women should never accept being dismissed when they seek help for changes in their sexual health. - How reclaiming pleasure can become part of reclaiming yourself in midlife and beyond. And much more...
Episode Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:10 Why Angela Started The Real Girl's Guide to Over 55 04:30 What Is the Pleasure Pivot? 08:00 Divorce, Self-Pleasure and Discovering What You Like 14:00 Learning from Previous Generations 16:00 Exploring Pleasure with a New Partner 19:00 Why Women Over 50 Are Reclaiming Themselves 22:00 Why Does Society Stop Talking About Women After 60? 27:00 Advocating for Better Menopause and Sexual Healthcare 32:00 Why Pleasure Doesn't Have an Expiration Date 34:00 Angela's New Book
Show Notes At what point do we stop living for everyone else and start paying attention to ourselves? For many women, that question doesn't arrive until midlife. After years spent building careers, raising children, supporting partners and meeting everyone else's expectations, there comes a moment when we realise we've quietly disappeared from our own list of priorities. In this episode, I'm joined by writer and Substack creator Angela Burk, whose idea of a "pleasure pivot" perfectly captures what so many women experience after 50. Rather than seeing ageing as a time of decline, Angela describes it as an opportunity to rediscover the parts of ourselves that may have been neglected for years—including our sexuality. As we talk, Angela shares her remarkably honest journey of discovering self-pleasure after divorce, learning what her own body enjoyed for the first time, and finding a relationship where curiosity, communication and mutual pleasure became just as important as love itself. We also reflect on why so many women of our generation were never taught to understand their own bodies, and why those conversations are only now beginning to happen openly. Perhaps what stayed with me most is the idea that pleasure isn't something we earn once every other responsibility has been fulfilled. It's part of living well. And whether we're in our fifties, sixties or beyond, it's never too late to ask for more—from our relationships, our healthcare or ourselves. Because reclaiming pleasure isn't simply about better sex. Sometimes it's the beginning of reclaiming your whole life. Listen, learn and enjoy.
Key Takeaways - Putting yourself first isn't selfish—it's essential for wellbeing. - Many women don't discover what truly pleases them until midlife. - Understanding your own body makes communication with a partner much easier. - Shame and silence continue to influence women's sexual confidence. - A supportive partner creates space for exploration and honesty. - Libido changes don't mean your sex life has to end. - Women deserve healthcare professionals who take sexual wellbeing seriously. - If one doctor dismisses your concerns, seek another opinion. - Open conversations help normalise women's experiences of ageing. - Pleasure has no age limit.
About the Guest Angela Burk is the creator of the Substack newsletter The Real Girl's Guide to Over 55, where she writes candidly about midlife, reinvention, relationships and the emotional and physical changes that accompany ageing. After retiring from her corporate career, Angela revisited a book id
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