Show Notes
In a lovely and inspiring conversation on The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, Amanda Diekman sits down with Iris Chen, founder of Untigering, to discuss her journey from authoritarian parenting to a radically respectful and connected approach. Together, they explore:
Detoxing from authoritarian and fear-based parenting
Breaking free from the "good girl" and "good mom" identities
Letting go of obedience as a measure of success
Building meaningful relationships across generational and cultural divides
Embracing radical acceptance in parenting and beyond
Iris shares her personal story, the challenges of parenting in countercultural ways, and the importance of living your values to inspire change. Whether you're navigating parenting, breaking cycles, or creating your own family culture, this episode will leave you inspired to step into radical acceptance and connection.
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Main Topics Discussed:
Detoxing from fear-based, authoritarian parenting paradigms
Shifting from controlling outcomes to embracing connection and safety
The journey of healing childhood wounds to parent differently
Addressing cultural and generational challenges in parenting transitions
Practical ways to hold boundaries with respect and nuance
How to embody radical acceptance in relationships
Resources Mentioned:
Iris Chen’s book: Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent
Iris Chen’s website: Untigering
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