Show Notes
Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...
The best way parents can tell their children that they are planning to separate or get divorced. How to approach this conversation in a way that helps children feel safe, supported, and loved. What parents should share, what they should avoid sharing, and why it's important to focus on what you know rather than what you don't know yet. The key reassurances every child needs to hear, even if they never ask the questions out loud. Why children of different ages may react very differently to the news and how to tailor your approach to your child's developmental stage. How to respond when children react with sadness, anger, blame, resistance, or seemingly no reaction at all. Practical ways to help children adjust to changes in the family while maintaining a sense of stability and connection. When it may be helpful to involve a therapist or family professional for additional support.
This episode will help you approach one of the most difficult conversations a family can face with greater confidence, compassion, and clarity while supporting your child's emotional well-being through the transition.
REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:
👉 Navigating separation or divorce? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers specialized support at every stage of the process, including therapy and coaching, parenting and co-parenting support, family therapy, and weekly divorce groups for women and children. Whether you're in the middle of a split or adjusting to a new family structure, our team is here to help you and your children feel steady and supported. Visit upshurbren.com to learn more or schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the right support for your family.
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about busting divorce myths and breaking down the true effect it has on children with Michelle Dempsey-Multack
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about navigating divorce or separation through a family systems approach with Una Archer
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether "nesting" during a divorce better for your kids?
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