Too Into You

Control Isn’t Love: Abuse in LGBTQ+ Relationships

Too Into You

Show Notes

On this episode, we chat to James O’Hagan from LGBT Ireland. James coordinates the LGBTQI+ Intimate Partner Violence Network.

We’ll be chatting about things like:

- Does abuse happen in LGBTQ+ relationships?

- What are the red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships?

- What does a healthy queer relationship look like?

- Where can young LGBTQ+ people find support?

Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.

Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:

Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.

Chat for support at toointoyou.ie

Both are completely free and confidential.

Contact LGBT Ireland:

Call National LGBT Helpline on 1800 929 539

Find information and support at lgbt.ie

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Chapters

00:00 Intro

04:01 Who is LGBT Ireland and LGBTQI+ Community Intimate Partner Abuse Network

06:17 How coming out impacts young LGBTQ+ relationships

14:38 Common red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships

18:41 Dating someone who is already out

22:13 How abuse happens in LGBTQ+ relationships

26:10 Barriers to seeking support

29:08 Where to go for support

31:34 Supporting a friend or family member

34:00 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell

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