Show Notes
Ever felt like you’re failing because your child is upset and you can’t make it stop? We’ve all been there. We think that being a "good mum" means keeping our kids in a state of constant happiness. But what if we have it backwards?
In this episode, Doctor Tash shares a perspective that is—fair warning—incredibly hard to swallow at first. It challenges the very core of our "fix-it" instincts. We’re talking about the uncomfortable, quiet and transformative power of simply staying put when things get messy.
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In this episode, we unpack the raw reality of what happens when parents ignore their own warning signs and run on completely empty. Sometimes, our over-the-top reactions are rarely about our kids' behaviour, but a reflection of the heavy, invisible backpacks we are carrying ourselves.
We’ve all been there: Your child is trying to put on a shoe, climb a ladder or finish a puzzle, and the frustration starts to peak. It’s tempting (so tempting) to just reach in and do it for them. We tell ourselves we’re saving time or saving them from tears. But are we actually saving them from the very thing that builds their grit?
Many of us have somehow internalised this heavy belief that to be a "good" or "safe" parent, we have to respond immediately to every single demand from our children. But trying to be a superhero who meets every need right away isn’t just exhausting, it actually misses the point of what our kids truly require to feel secure.
The feeding is done, the nappy is clean, they’ve been swaddled, rocked and shushed—and yet, the tears keep coming. Your heart starts racing, your head starts spinning with "What am I doing wrong?", and you feel that desperate urge to just make it stop.
This is something every parent experiences but few openly discuss: Rupture. Those moments of temporary disconnection between us and our children. The sharp tone. The frustrated words. The reaction that came out before we could stop it.