Nobody Taught Us This: The 3 Boundary Types Every Woman Needs to Start Thriving
Stronger Bolder WiserShow Notes
Are you exhausted, resentful, and running on empty…but still saying "I'm fine"?
In this episode I talk about something most of us were never taught: how to set boundaries. Not the cold, wall-building kind. But boundaries that actually protect your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing and creates more time, more energy, and more joy in your life.
I break down the three types of boundaries, the six areas of life where you can start setting them right now, and the surprisingly simple ways to begin… even if you're terrified of disappointing people.
You don't need more resilience. You don't need more hours in the day. You just need better boundaries. Let's talk about it.
Key moments:
00:00: Nobody ever taught us how to have boundaries. And we’ve been paying for it
4:39: 10 signs your boundaries need work.
5:16: Boundaries aren’t punishment. Here is what they actually are…
7:01: The 3 types of boundaries and why women are stuck in the wrong one
8:21: How did we get here? The good girl conditioning that wried us to abandon ourselves
21:29: What is the real way to build self-confidence… and why it’s not what you think
21:52: How a 9:30pm bedtime teaches you to trust yourself again
28:21: How do you know if you’re over-functioning and what to do about it
34:31: Your phone is costing you more than you realise. Here is what to do about it
43:16: How do you know when a friendship has run its course
48:18: What is stopping us from delegating and how it is keeping us stuck
55:25: The bath, the candles and the moment i knew i’d done something right
58:41: How to keep a promise to yourself and set 1 boundary this week
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