210 | confusion isn't the problem in autism parenting. this is...
EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kidsShow Notes
about this episode (+ scroll for resources) 👇 feeling confused about what to do next with your child? most parents assume that means they need more information. more strategies. more answers. but what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck? in this episode, we’re talking about why confusion isn’t a problem to fix and how constantly searching for more information can actually create more overwhelm. if you’ve been overthinking, second-guessing, or feeling like you should “know more” by now… this episode will help you slow down, reconnect, and find clarity in a completely different way. in this episode, you’ll hear: why confusion doesn’t mean you’re failing and how it can actually guide your next steps how overconsuming information can keep you stuck in a cycle of overwhelm what it looks like to “slow down to speed up” in your parenting decisions how to ground yourself in what you already know to be true about your child why not all autism parenting content is relevant to you at every stage a simple “bucket” framework to help you organize what to focus on now vs later why going deeper (not wider) is often the key to clarity how to take your next step without needing to have everything figured out
timestamps 00:00 embracing confusion in parenting 03:44 finding your rhythm: the beat of parenting 06:47 judgment and acceptance in parenting 09:25 navigating information overload 12:25 understanding different stages of parenting 15:10 actionable takeaways for parents 17:49 creating clarity amidst confusion 20:33 building foundations for future growth 24:02 the journey of self-discovery in parenting resources ⚡️need support in finding your next best steps? join EVOLVE the membership and submit your questions for dr. tay to answer ⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach + clinical services ⚡️ share your insights from this episode with me >> instagram → @the.dr.tay email → [email protected]
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