Summary
Buddhist nun Aya Santacita shares her insights on self-improvement, the nature of suffering, and the importance of patience in a recent conversation. Santacita, who became a nun in 1993 after a transformative experience following her mother's death, emphasizes that true growth comes not from striving to become better versions of ourselves but from letting go of limiting beliefs and conditioning. She argues that many people mistakenly believe self-improvement is about gaining more, when it is actually about releasing what no longer serves us.
During the discussion, Santacita highlights the significance of heartbreak as a catalyst for spiritual growth, suggesting that such experiences can open individuals to deeper understandings of life. She encourages listeners to embrace uncertainty and to cultivate patience, viewing waiting as an opportunity to practice mindfulness. Santacita also discusses the need for community and mentorship in spiritual practice, asserting that relationships can provide essential support during challenging times.
Moreover, Santacita critiques the human-centric worldview that dominates modern society, advocating for a more interconnected understanding of our relationship with the earth. She calls for a shift in perspective, urging individuals to recognize their role within the larger ecosystem and to engage with the world in a way that fosters collective well-being. Her teachings emphasize the importance of devotion, ethical living, and the cultivation of a sense of belonging to something greater than oneself.
Show Notes
Buddhist advice on the feeling of "I'm not enough," the voice that says "if I don't do it, no one will," and tolerating uncertainty without impatience. Santacitta Bhikkhuni trained as a nun in England & Asia, primarily in the lineage of Ajahn Chah and has also received teachings in the Shechen lineage of Tibetan Buddhism. She is committed to Gaia as a living being and resides at Aloka Earth Room, currently in San Rafael, California. She recently co-authored the book What Are You Waiting For? A Conversation about Buddhism between Two Old Friends. You can find more of Ayya's teachings in audio & video format, as well as ongoing events in-person & online. In this episode we talk about: Why self-improvement might be the wrong goal entirely The upside of having your heart broken Why patience isn't just for old ladies How to actually tolerate uncertainty The difference between reacting and responding What waiting in line can teach you The devotional practice missing from Western Buddhism What it means to become part of the Earth's immune system Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel This episode is sponsored by: Rosetta Stone: Visit rosettastone.com/happier to redeem your 20% off Rosetta Stone Sapphire. Base44: Go to Base44.com/Happier and sign up through our link to get 30% off the Builder plan for your first year. Scribe: Learn more at scribe.how/HAPPIER and mention 10% Happier for your first month of Scribe Capture free on select plans. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris
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