62. The truth about what stops you from Just Starting Now (with Samantha Carbon and Lucy Rowett)
Just Start NowShow Notes
This season will be dedicated to taking apart and going deeper into the Just Start Now book I released earlier this year. To get the most from the season (and to be in with the chance of winning some prizes!) I recommend you grab a copy of the book and read along with us. You can purchase your copy here: https://vickyshilling.com/book
Trigger warning: We discuss racism, body size discrimination and gender identity in this conversation, and some strong language was used in this episode in case you may find this offensive or if little ears are around while you listen. In today’s episode, I’m joined by two guests - Samantha Carbon, psychotherapist and coach, and Lucy Rowett, certified sex coach and sexologist - to discuss the larger societal things at play that may stop you from just starting now. Some of the things we talked about when it comes to just starting now: What you need to be aware of beyond your own mindset that may be holding you back from starting your business or taking action Having courage and compassion to engage and interact with uncomfortable conversations, particularly with marginalised groups and the fear of 'getting it wrong' Body size discrimination and diet culture within the wellness space The importance of feeling safe being visible online and in business What's missing in the mainstream business conversation and the understanding that all our minds and bodies work differently How your business model should reflect what truly works for you, your mind and your body The 'resilient edge of resistance' and finding your own window of tolerance How doing the inner work can help you to develop a more inclusive business For episode show notes, resources and links, head to: https://vickyshilling.com/just-start-now-podcast
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