144 | Left Out by Your Friends? Why It’s Not Proof You’re Too Much {TEENS}
Anxious Christian Teen | Anxiety Symptoms, Insecurity, Overwhelmed, Stressed, Self-Esteem, Social Anxiety, Peace in the BibleShow Notes
Hey doll, Left out by your friends? Maybe you heard about the birthday sleepover on Monday morning, after everybody else already had the pictures. Maybe your friends have started ghosting you, or every single conversation ends in drama. And now you’re wondering if something is wrong with you. If you’re too much, not enough, or both. Friendships as a teen are incredibly important. You’re figuring out who you are and where you fit, so when friendships wobble, it feels like it’s about you. I know, because I lived it. I kept a poker face and played it off like I didn’t care, while on the inside I was sure I was too blunt, too weird, the third wheel. In this episode, I’m giving you one brave tool and three cringe (but true) teaching points to help you stop treating “left out” like proof that you’re the problem. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why getting left out feels so huge right now, and why it isn’t a verdict on who you are The Testing the Waters tool: how to calmly ask what’s really going on, without naming or blaming Why you never go into that conversation hot, and when it’s ok to not have it at all Why not everyone who says they’re your friend is actually your friend Why not everything you hear is the full truth Why the only person you can control is you, and what Romans 12:18 says about your part
Your one step this week: Think of one friendship situation that’s been sitting heavy on you. Don’t fix it yet. Just ask yourself, what do I actually know is true here, and what’s the story I’ve been telling myself? xo, Kristen 🎧 Follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. WANNA GO DEEPER, BABY SIS? Step 1: Not sure where to start? Take the quiz, What Type of Anxious Teen Girl Are You: anxiouschristianteen.com/quiz Step 2: Come sit with other girls doing this work in the free community: anxiouschristianteen.com/community Step 3: Ready for more support? Learn about coaching: anxiouschristianteen.com/coaching
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