The Assumptions We Never Question: Susan Heitler on Couples, Conflict, and Conventional Therapy
Therapist ConfidentialShow Notes
Should therapists be treating married clients individually? Is compromise really the gold standard for resolving conflict? And what if solutions were as close as our outstretched hand?
In this thought-provoking episode, Travis Heath talks with psychologist Susan Heitler about the assumptions therapists rarely question. Together they explore couples therapy, ethics, conflict resolution, personal growth, and the practical tools Susan has developed over decades of clinical work.
A conversation that challenges conventional therapy without losing sight of what matters most: helping people create healthier relationships and more satisfying lives.
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